Women’s clothes are made for men
Men in women's clothes and women topless - you'd do that if you could
Whether women's fashion for men or women without a top, the topic of clothing still seems to be locked in a large cliché drawer. So many would like to break out of it, break away from social expectations and have the freedom to simply wear anything. A few have made it.
Men and women are not only concerned with fashion. Occupations, hobbies and even drinks are also assigned to the sexes. A man likes beer, a woman likes fruity cocktails. So the expectations.
It is time to get over it. The first small step: speak openly about it. You did that, dear ze.tt readers. Here is a selection of your answers.
I've always been a small, pretty blonde. The most common questions I was asked were: “Netflix & chill?” And “Do you want a drink?” Nobody cared about my opinion. I gained 20 pounds, stopped painting my nails and moved. I thought if I wasn't the pretty little blonde anymore, I could break out of this stereotype. Thought wrong. Nobody talks to a fat blonde at all.
If there were no role stereotypes, I would like to do martial arts, I would like to learn archery and get my gun license. I would like to have children one day and go back to work after the statutory maternity leave. But that would require a man who doesn't believe in clichés and likes to stay at home himself. I would also like to learn drums. What's stopping me? That as a woman one is judged and condemned for everything. I can't even watch my favorite movie Transformers watch without anyone out there claiming that I just watch this movie to be more popular with men.
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One of the clichés that I find most annoying is the expectation that as a man you have to drink beer. And like. Have you ever heard of a male student who doesn't like beer? Radler, Schöfferhofer grapefruit and especially cocktails like Piña Colada are great drinks that you still think twice about ordering them in company.
Markus, approx. 37
For men of my taste who like colorful and crisp patterns, the male fashion market has few answers. Instead, often lame stripes and monochrome. I've often bought things in second-hand shops where people told me or I found out later: "Oops, that's actually for women!" and blow up the target group.
I'd love to run around shirtless, play volleyball with friends, and go swimming in the summer. I would also like to have more shopping opportunities to buy myself a really nice suit that is tailored to my body without becoming impoverished.
Wear a skirt, maybe a dress with sheer tights, definitely pumps and boots, sometimes with a narrow heel. Make-up, tight-fitting, figure-hugging clothing and body hair removal are normal for me anyway. Try out more colors and the different styles for women. Is simply much nicer than the boring men's permanent fashion on offer.
I'm already doing something outside of stereotyped gender roles. After my studies in international forestry, I am now doing another apprenticeship as a forest manager. Say: I cut trees with a bunch of post-pubescent boys. I was told that as a woman I don't belong in the forest. I would work too slowly. I would be preferred because of my gender. No matter what I do, in the end it's always about something that has to do with my gender. I have to listen to a lot, but not everything is negative. I also get a lot of encouragement. Sometimes I don't know if it's worth it. I often wish I had more colleagues. Just so that I don't stand out.
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Readers who have outgrown socially constructed gender clichés have also reported. You confidently wear women's fashion, regardless of confused passerby eyes and their judgmental questions. They show: It is possible not to adapt to the prevailing norms. You just have to trust yourself.
I'm almost 52 years old, I knitted myself socks when I was 18, cry when I have to, and snuggle up to my girlfriend as it comes to my mind. But I am a man and I desire women. Still, I like to use their shower gel. I play with the clichés and occasionally blur them. It's fun and sometimes gives you an interesting note. And I don't really care what others think of my role as a man. If I dance, I've been told, then I could be a woman. So I think it's a matter of self-confidence and the limitations of others. I don't give a shit!
But I'm a little dismayed about men who don't dare to order a fruit drink when they feel like it. For me, when it comes to drinks, it's more the dairy products that may not be typically masculine. Of course I also drink beer, but I also like to order a milkshake or something similar if I feel like it. Up to now, I was not aware that this would shake the values of some of my fellow men. My particular passion is lactose-free milk, although I am not lactose intolerant. But I like the sweet taste. If you will, this is my contribution to overcoming the cliché "cute = female".
And when styling, I wear the said leggings. But not these shiny lycra pieces, but matt black leggings made of a more solid material for a chic appearance. I not only wear them for sports, but occasionally - when I feel like it - for shopping, in restaurants or in the theater. Simply because I like it myself. And of course a really well-fitting panty underneath is my male duty. My favorite answer when someone asks me about it: “This is a free country.” Who can say something about that? A casual jacket and stylish sneakers: the outfit is ready, in which I then dare to order a milkshake or ask my wife in the cinema for a handkerchief for my tears.
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Three years ago I just started to push the boundaries of the male role or, depending on your point of view, expand the male role. For me, high heels, skirts, dresses and accessories fit into existence as a man. Bit by bit I have conquered “typically feminine” things after first overcoming the boundaries in my thinking and my own role models. The biggest obstacle lies in ourselves and in the fear of people's reaction: "What would people say if I ...".
Of course there are negative reactions from dear fellow human beings. Initially more, now very rarely. This is due to the habituation effect of the environment and the increasing security in the public and the associated charisma. The positive feedback outweighs by far, sometimes spontaneously on the road.
Fortunately, I am at an age that makes it easier to evade expectations and to lead life more independently of role stereotypes. There are now almost no limits for me when it comes to clothes and looks.
I don't have to transform myself into a woman to wear clothes, I think that works just as well as a man. At 35 degrees in the shade, there is nothing more comfortable than an airy summer dress in which I can enjoy the envious looks of other men in thick clothes. But clothes are also wearable in winter, as can be seen in the current photo.
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